Tuesday, December 27, 2005

Eliminating the Passive Pattern

My brother recently shared this with me..

Eliminating the Passive Pattern
By Barbara Pachter, president of Pachter and Associates, Cherry Hill, New Jersey, and author of The Power of Positive Confrontation.November 2000, Purchasing Today®, page 8.
Did you ever wonder what may be holding you back from job advancement? Passive communication patterns may be what's stalling your career.

Business Etiquette:
Jack was the expert. No one else in his department had the same grasp on financial issues as he did. Yet Jack was passed over a second time for a promotion. Finally, his manager told him that until he got rid of his wimpy handshake and nervous giggle, he was not going anywhere in the organization. He was stunned. He didn't even realize that he was doing those things.

Jack is a real person, one of the many supply management professionals with stalled-out careers who are in need of help to break out of what is known as the "passive pattern."
The passive pattern is defined as the failure to present oneself with strength and conviction. Instead of using more polite and powerful behavior, people with the passive pattern use self-defeating communication mannerisms - like the wimpy handshake and the nervous giggle - often without knowing it.

Of course, no one is perfect. We can all have a communication habit that works against us in some small way. The difficulty is when they start adding up, when you have two or more of these behaviors. That's a pattern. It's passive. You look unprofessional.
How do you know if you suffer from the passive pattern? If you do good work but aren't getting promoted, that can be a sign. There are other signs as well - your suggestions don't get taken, your proposals aren't accepted, your ideas go ignored, conflicts aren't resolved, or your orders are not followed.

If this describes the state of your career, tune into your verbal and nonverbal communication habits and look for mistakes.

Eight Areas of Communication to TargetIn addition to the wimpy handshake and the nervous giggle, here are eight more of the most common mistakes that can add up to a career problem for supply managers:

1. Using qualifying words.
These are extra words that are added to sentences that can make even the smartest person sound tentative and unsure. Qualifying words include "kinda," "sorta," "maybe," and "perhaps." "I was kinda, in a way, somewhat sure the materials would arrive on time." Well, were you or weren't you? Remember, if you sound confident, more people are likely to see you as confident. If you discount yourself, it's easy for others to also discount you.
2. Using "I think" when you know.
If you are asked, "What time is the meeting on Monday?" do you answer, "I think the meeting is at 3 p.m." or "The meeting is at 3 p.m."? If you are unsure of the time, you can use "I think." But don't say "I think" when you know. You want to be viewed as a credible source.
3. Speaking too softly.
If your volume is low, it becomes easy not to hear you. You can then become invisible and easy to ignore. Many people have no idea that they speak as softly as they do. A suggestion you could use to detect this pattern would be to tape yourself at various distances from a recorder and then listen to hear if your volume carries.
4. Playing with hands.
It's hard to be taken seriously when you are wringing your hands or twisting paper clips. Clicking pens, twisting rubber bands, twirling mustaches, and fidgeting with glasses are examples of mannerisms that can become distractions that may take away from what is being said by the speaker.
5. Using "I don't know" as extra words.
This is not saying "I don't know" because you truly don't know something. This is using "I don't know" as a way to discount what you have just said: "I suggest we implement the original plan. It's affordable, I don't know… "
6. Standing passively.
Business professionals who stand with their legs crossed, slouch, or fold their arms over their chests don't look open, confident, and professional. They look like they would rather be anywhere else than where they are. Stand assertively. Keep your legs parallel with your shoulders, about three to four inches apart. This does not mean you must stand rigid. Keep your shoulders back, but not way back, and keep your chin straight. Unless you're gesturing, your hands can be at your side.
7. Avoiding eye contact.
In some cultures, too much eye contact is a faux pas, but in the United States, you need to look people in the eye when speaking with them. You may occasionally look away. But if you mostly look away, you can appear nervous or insincere. If a supplier is not looking at you when discussing delivery arrangements, you will have a tendency not to believe that person.
8. Overusing "I'm sorry."
This is apologizing for no reason. One woman says, "It's raining today, I'm sorry," as if it is her fault. One manager says to her customer, "I am sorry to bother you today." Again, if you discount yourself, it's easy for others to also discount you.

Suggested Solutions:
Get feedback every year to discover if you are doing any of the "passive pattern" items. The first step in eliminating any of them is to discover which ones you do. Means of correcting communication mistakes include:

1. Take a good presentation skills class that videotapes you. You need to see and hear what you are doing.
2. Listen to voice mail messages before sending them. Rerecord your messages as necessary to catch qualifying words and other communication mistakes. Five out of the eight communication mistakes can be detected through this practice.
3. Work with a career coach.
4. Ask trusted and qualified friends and colleagues to monitor your communication skills.

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Friday, December 23, 2005

Merry Christmas 2005

I like to wish all my friends and family a merry christmas.

This year had been a great year for me personal. I had a lot of development in terms of career, spiritual and self-help.

As it is always a custom to associate a celebration with good news, I have found the following to be interesting.

USA cancer death rate continues to drop.

According to the news, cancer rate has witnessed a steady declined every since 1997; the year asia went into economical crisis. There isn't much of a link here.

However, personally, I have often likened cancer to the mind. If you have a bad soul, chances of contracting cancer would be higher.

Some of my friends who are smoker defended their habit, saying that tobacco don't induce cancer. Based on my theory, it is correct too. However, perhaps the worry of contracting it actually deliver the point.

Bear a healthy mind and soul. If you are perfect, you can't inspire.

Thursday, December 22, 2005

Buddha Table

My friend asked me about creating a layout which has images arranged in an order manner.

What he wanted is to have them in table.

Thus, I created for him this sample.

HTML Codes:

No identation pls:
If one does with the following; unwanted spaces would be introduced.


Tuesday, December 20, 2005


If you are perfect, you can't inspire.

Thus, things would be okay if you just do it right.
  • No worry that she won't go out with me.
  • No worry that can't get another job.
  • No stress because I can't cover everything.
  • No worry that I am not her type.

If you are perfect, you can't inspire.

Friday, December 09, 2005

One day i will

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One day I will be on top of the world ..

Friday, December 02, 2005

Earthquake Prediction for Malaysia

Quake and tsunami predicted in S'pore & M'sia

BANGKOK: Thailand's now iconic meteorologist, Dr Smith Dharmasaroja, who in Year 1998 predicted a killer tsunami would hit Thailand one day & was ignored, said S'pore & M'sia were also in danger from a future earthquake and tsunami. "I believe the epicentre of future quakes will shift northwards, north of the Andaman & Nicobar islands."

"A big earthquake with a more northerly epicentre than the Dec 26 quake will generate a tsunami which will have a more direct route down to the Straits of Malacca, swamping S'pore and M'sia." during the month of december 05' and january 06'.

"As the sea passage narrows, more water will build ! up and the wave will become bigger. S'pore is relatively low-lying & quite flat, and would be badly affected.

Remember,in Dec,the tsunami was 30m high at Banda Aceh. At Khao Lak, it was 16m high," he said."

Dr Smith,70,retired as chief of Thailand's Meteorological Department well before last Dec's disaster.But before that, he had warned first in a speech and then in a memo that Thailand's Andaman coast was at risk from a killer tsunami.

Tragically his warning, although widely reported by the media, was ignored.

Government officials, fearful of tourists staying away, branded him a cranky and dangerous man. The authorities in Phuket castigated him & said he was not welcome to visit. After the tsunami, Prime Minister Thaksin Shinawatra recalled him and made him the chairman of a committee tasked with developing a national! disaster warning centre and strategy.

"I'm not happy that I have made the right prediction," he said. "Nobody can accurately predict an earthquake; you can only assume from historical data," he added. He said big natural disasters occur in 80 year to 100 year cycles, apparently randomly across the world.

"If you speak out too much, forecast too much, you will get a lot of criticism, from government agencies, the tourism sector and so forth," he added. Explaining the northward shift of future epicentres, Dr Smith stressed: "This is no joke. I would like you to put this message out to S'pore and M'sia."

A researcher working on the hypothesis, who did not want to be named, said the research was on-going and final results were not yet ready.

Dr Smith said: "I have seen the simulations that indicate this and they look believable. From my own experience, it is possible."Only a few days ago, there was a 6.1 quake in the Andaman sea near the Nicobar islands, which is about 321.8km north of the Dec 26 quake.

So, this is an indication that the epicentre is moving north."

Friday, November 11, 2005

Volunteers Needed - 11-Nov-05

I am looking for volunteers for 2 events as below.

1. Anti smoking brochures to hand out- The GrimReaper-www.grimreaper.org ( a Canadian Anti Smoking Org and MyWatch- AMalaysian Women for tobacco control and health)want to give out brochures atThe International Tobacco Exhibition and Conference from Nov 14 - 16 (thisMon) at the KLCC Convention Centre. Please e-mail Dato' Hatijah and offeryour services if you can. her e-mail is mywatch_malaysia@yahoo.com .

2. Any writers and budding photographers amongst you? I need to have 2'reporters'and 1 or 2 photograpers for a daily newspaper I am doing for aninternational conference next week. I will need the volunteers from the 18thtill the 20th of NOVEMBER (next week)during the day basically. Ideally itshould be students or people starting out in the writing field or haveinterest in it or people who have a couple of free days to spare and wantto have a good time. You will get to meet over 1000 people from the AsiaPacific region. There will be a small allowance to cover travel and food.please e-mail me directly at brian@lariche.net

thanks all

Brian Lariche.

Gendering around us

Ziploc bags are Male. They are male because they hold everything in, but you can see right through them.

Copiers are Female. They are female because once turned off, it takes a while to warm them up again. It's an effective reproductive device if the right buttons are pushed, but can wreak havoc if the wrong buttons are pushed.

Tires are Male because they go bald and are often over-inflated.

Hot Air Balloons are Male because to get them to go anywhere, you have to light a fire under them, and of course, there's the hot air part.

Sponges are Female because they're soft, squeezable and retain water.

The Web Page is Female because it's always getting hit on.

The Subway is Male because it uses the same old lines to pick people up.

The Hourglass is Female because over time, the weight shifts to the bottom.

A Hammer is Male because it hasn't changed much over the last 5000 years, but it's handy to have around.

The Remote Control is Female. Yes, you thought it would be male. But consider this -- it gives a man pleasure, he'd be lost without it, and while he doesn't always know the right buttons to push, he keeps trying.

Friday, November 04, 2005


学佛者当知,智度论说: [ 烦恼有二种, 一属爱,二属见]

[爱欲] 是轮回六道的根本,因为爱欲的绵缚,最容易使修行人堕落其中,被爱欲迷惑心窃之后,一切的行为更不正确了,所说的言论也不正确了。



Wednesday, October 26, 2005

Volunteers for GEMMA humanitarian launch

GEMMA is a youth based humanitarian organization. We will be organizing our organization's official press launch on the 18th November 2005 at the Putra World Trade Centre and will be officiated by YA Bhg Tun Dr. Mahathir Mohamad. We have also invited officials
from various government and non government agencies such as The Ministry of Youth and Sports, The Ministry of Foreign Affairs, The Ministry of Education and The UN to support our organization Launch.

we are looking for volunteers to assist this launch. We dont have much time and resources and hope that you all may be able to help in these departments:

1. Inviting and following up on guests to the launch (Urgent!!).
-expected number of guest: 150
-corporate sector
-Higher Learning Institutions
-NGOs and Youth groups

2. During the event day
-general helpers

GEMMA's vission is to embed the humanitarian spirit within the youths of Malaysia. our objectives are:

To provide a platform for the youth to be involved in humanitarian activities;

To provide knowledge and skills to the public especially the youth on constructive and positive reactions towards disasters;

To provide the best and most effective humanitarian assistance for civilians in any disasters, conflict, or underdeveloped/ impoverished communities; and

and To promote global humanitarian culture and ideology in Malaysia

GEMMA plans to achieve its objectives by creating and providing a platform for everyone espescially youths in humanitarian related activities and programs such as:


GEMMA has identified the basics and the dynamics of working in a humanitarian relief aid environment. Get trained by highly qualified trainers on emergency rescue where you can learn the basics of First Aid, Ascending and Descending (A&D), Search and Rescue (SAR), and
safety precautions and coordination.

Learn from experienced humanitarians the different aspects of disaster and conflict management, distribution of humanitarian aid, refugee and IDP (Internally Displaced Persons) care, trauma relief, needs assessment techniques, and many more. We hope to cultivate a
generation of dynamic and efficient humanitarians.


Our humanitarian expeditions is an activity that combines the adventurous experience of backpacking. With the soulful satisfaction of community based work. Travel and experience different and unique cultures, sceneries and people from places like Africa, Aceh,
South Asia, Philippines, Iraq, Afghanistan, Ethiopia, or wherever place that requires humanitarian assistance. Many areas in Malaysia too need alot of humanitarian assistance in places and communities that have been devastated by flash floods, String winds, and also

Not only you get to travel, we will coordinate participants and volunteers of our expeditions with the vast scopes of humanitarian duties such as Emergency Rescue, IDP and Refugee care, or maybe even education and psychosocial programs. With GEMMA, anybody can be a

c. GEMMA Road Show and Humanitarian Campaign

One of our strategies of attracting youths here in Malaysia in humanitarian relief is by conducting a National Road Show and a Campaign on Global Humanitarian Plights across higher learning institutions all over the country. The theme of the campaign is "A TOUCH OF YOUTH, FOR THE SPIRIT OF HUMANITY". The objective of conducting this campaign is to educate the youths of Malaysia and make them aware of global issues such as world poverty, repercussions of war and conflicts, famine, and disasters. We would also like to educate these youths on what is humanitarian relief and the different aspects involved in it. With the backing of potential sponsors, we are hoping that we would be able to do this by early 2006. We are
initially planning to have ten of these road shows. Our minimum target of the road show is for GEMMA to be established in the universities and colleges that we visit. We hope that in the future, GEMMA will have humanitarian volunteers from Universities and colleges all over Malaysia.

If anyones intersted to help out, please get back to me asap. you may
contact me at 016 929 8317, Max 012 6700 790 or Ellyne at ehlamin@yahoo.com.

M. Zhariff

Sunday, October 16, 2005

South Korea Trip October 2005

No time to read the text? Just view the photos then...

During 12 - 15 October 2005, I was granted a great gift; a business trip to South Korea; the country of morning calmness. According to some sources, Koreans are descendant of god and bear (i don't know how). God makes them elegant and wise, bear makes them square and tough.

I took a flight from KLIA, Kuala Lumpur Malaysia at 00:45 (12-october-2005) and touched down at Incheon, Korea on around 7:45 AM (12-October-2005). Even though I slept on the plane but yet I felt the jet-lag.

I finally understood what is jet-lag; it is due to the fact that air-stewardness try to wake you up at the wrong time to eat something.

Incheon Airport
The journey from Incheon airport to Seoul took around an hour. We were rushed to the hotel and was ordered to change into formal dress quickly because the traffic jam of Seoul, Korea is pretty bad.

But traffic jam is good for us because it provides opportunity for site-seeing. We weren't planning to go to office anyway!

Seoul City:
It is a great city, personally I have never seen any city that beautiful. Singapore is okay, Kuala Lumpur sucks. I am not good at describing cities, however in all, the combination of mountains, well planned city management and nice architecture of the buildings cater for a wonderful city.

Seoul City Buildings

The first exhibition we got into was the WCEC(World Chinese Entrepreneurs Convention) 2005.
It was organized to enable collaboration between korean and chinese companies. As a result of such spirit, I actually encountered a few chinese speaking Korean.

Entering the tradeshow

Nothing great that I can remember except for the free lunches at 3rd floor.

For the first time in my life, I got to eat Korean food and of course kimchi; a free and cheap Korean-mandatory food made out of vegetable and some spicy source. In fact there are like 200+ types of Kimchi according to my tour guide for the D.M.Z (Demilitarized Zone)

At night, I was taken to eat the claypot rice which could be presented in many formats (vegetarian, beef and etc) It was hot and spicy and it cost me around RM40 for just one meal. Thankfully, the drinks and Kimchi was free and always is.

Eating normal noodles by the road side cost me around RM8 (2K won)

Civilized Culture
The best part about Korea is its civilized culture where it is filled with high moral values. Out of the total 48 millions population, 20 millions inhabited in Seoul. I saw people walking on the street at 11:30PM and still feel fresh because it feels like morning.

Central City - South of Seoul

I have a few arguments to serve as my basis for saying that Korean have high moral values.
1. Traffic System - the roads have no divider in the middle to separate east and west lanes. This is because they allowed for vehicles to take U-Turn at appropriate spots and thus having fixed divider would take that privilledge away. But due to their high moral values, no one actually takes short-cut at the wrong spot.
2. Crime Rate - People walk on the street up to 12 AM. According to some sources, the highest percentage for crime comes under the category of "drunk and fight", not much of robbery and theft which are usually carried out by foreigners. This could also due to the fact they Koreans are entitled for social subsidies.
3. Weather - the weather affects people's thinking and hence mindset. Everybody is having a clear conscience and direction in life. For obvious reason, people don't actually suffer from frustration and wrath related social illness, the weather gives one calm and steady bless. Also the weather makes them a stronger human being than other races, this is especially true comparing to Malaysian.
4. Patriotic - My tour guide for D.M.Z kept mentioning that South Koreans are proud of the subway systems, Ginseng, Korean girls and kimchi (a common Korean dish).
5. Being the "South" Korea - South Korean often compared themselves with the North Korean and is proud that democracy has taken them thus far.

With all these factors, I have no reason to doubt that South Korea is now an advance country and I think they deserve the place. According to my organizer Mr. Kim, South Korea had nothing 30 years ago, the Korean war destroyed everything and now they created a wonder.

The big guys are Hyundai (whose founder is actually a North Korean), LG Digital, Samsung, SK Telekom and etc.

LG Digital the main sponsor for KES 2005

I have seen universities building robotics and etc. The apartment that I lived in (Co-op Residence) has got a LG Digital TV cum Computer monitor which allows me to watch T.V and also go online at the same time. This is the reason why 90% of population uses the Internet. This actually reflects how successful the telecommunication sector is. I think that percentage includes those who uses 3G for emails and some mobile ATM.

Korean Girl:
Korean girl gives me the impression of being too serious. They are elegant creature but I am just not sure how to attract their attention. The fact that they walk on the streets with such great self-esteem, I can't possible stop one and say "hi, how r you ?"

Nevertheless, Korean are actually very friendly, civilized and highly morale people. I felt that they have the right mindset for success and being patriotic. The good weather gives them the ground to have a positive thinking because cooler weather calms one down and hence no anger, hatred and jeolousy arises.

A Typical Korean Girl

The language:
My translator(Josh Jan) taught me a few things:
Gam Sa Hap mi da = Thank You
Je Song Hap mi da = Sorry
Ang nyang ha se yo = Hello
yue gi you = Excuse me
I love u = I love u

Korean likes to mention the word "hap mi da".. just like the japs who say "...gato.."

Brandon & Translator

D.M.Z (Demilitarized Zone)
This is the most profitable official tourist attraction for the country. The D.M.Z is actually the border between North and South Korea, two nations separated by different ideologies; democracy and communism.

The D.M.Z is where both sides are not allowed to be having any armed military stationed. The government of South Korea encourages civilian to live near the D.M.Z where they work as farmer for living. Their annual income is USD100 according to my tour guide. The idea of having civilian activities is actually to encourge the process of reunification after the Korean war. The Olympic game was also another element of reunification.

North Korean digging tunnels by bombing through the stones.

The Korean war and its history has high impact on the Koreans. Both side are always ready to withstand attacks from one another. North Korea, being the pro-activist has always been plotting strategies to evade South Korea effectively. One of their weapon is to make use of tunnels digged underground via the means of explosive dynamite to allow for army invasion. (The border is only 1 hour drive from the capital city) Up to date, 4 tunnels had been located and the North Korean denied responsibility. Therefore, Korean men upon 18 years of age has to serve the country for a mandatory 2 years military training.

Statue at the Trade Tower

I like South Korea because its people have the right mindset and attitude for life. In buddhism point of view, this is the most fundamental element for success. Having visited the country, I couldn't help but to remind myself to always maintain a great attitude for life and leverage on the Korean spirit.

Link to other photos

Saturday, October 01, 2005

Beautiful Heart


但是,这世界是丑陋的。比如,ABC先生一直都不心甘情愿的来为我开导Mobile Money的程序,是因为妒忌心太强了。原来,这世界充满妒忌之心,别人是不愿看您成功的。有好的东西,通常都不于你分享。


美丽世界只属于您,别人不可知,但可以期待。不可以分享它的内容,因为会受到攻击。在电脑的概念里,美丽的世界不可以online, 必须offline.



Wednesday, September 28, 2005

Youth Social Enterprise Initiative

It is a unique challenge to see whether our human networks can make all the differences in the world.We are working on a global initiative that empowers young people tochange the world through social entrepreneurship.If you know young people (age<30)>

The Youth Social Enterprise Initiative (YSEI)wants to support projectsby young people who are creating impact with innovative solutions tosocial problems. Especially those using information and communicationtechnology (ICT) for development as well as other appropriate technologies.We seek to support them by providing mentorship & training programs,networking & seed grants up to 15,000USD per project.If you are a young social entrepreneur (age <>

Please visit www.globalknowledge.org/ysei OR www.futureshifters.net to learn more and submit your proposal by 30thOctober 2005.

Youth Social Enterprise Initiative (YSEI) is a Global KnowledgePartnership (GKP) Youth Program supported by the Swiss Agency forDevelopment and Cooperation (SDC).

Its partners include MITRA, OrphanIT,TakingITGlobal, YoungAsiaTelevision, Philippines Resources forSustainable Development (PRSD), Development Research Network (D.Net)with TRN as the intiative's lead.(Please send a copy of all mesages that you are forwarding toysei@globalknowledge.org, so we can try to track the search challenge!)

Thursday, September 22, 2005

be a farmer and love your wife

Sometimes i would wonder that when can i get out of this rat-race life.

Not long ago, i have figured out the answer without timeline given. The day will come when I can finally pay back all debts and have a lot of cash in the bank for reserves. This is the day I will satisfy my partner during sexual intercourse with maximum effect, when there is no stress..keke!

anyway, there are times i thought about being a farmer and live a quiet life. Go to places that is humble and peaceful such as on top of the hill or far-away-paradise like Semporna, Sabah. Be a farmer, plant your own food and eat it, try to sell it. At night spend most of the time socializing and spiritual cultivation.

So here it is, for those share similar interest, there is a farming course for us.

CETDEM (Centre for Environment, Technology & Development Malaysia) will be organizing courses on organic farming/gardening. Courses are designed into 3 different categories, ranging from short course to in-depth course.

1) Weekend Short Courses on Composting on 2 Oct 2005, 3 - 5pm - This course tells you what organic gardening is and teach you how to make compost from kitchen, garden & market waste.
2) Course on Organic Kitchen Gardening on 22-23 Oct 2005 - This course is for those who want to know the theoretical and practical aspect on how to start an organic garden.
3) Course on Organic Farming on 4-6 Dec 2005 - This is an in-depth course on organic farming, suitable for converted or potential farmers, extension workers from government agencies or NGOs, organic food operators or organic compost/fertilizer manufacturer.

CETDEM will also be organising an organic farm tour to Cameron Highland on 8-9 Oct 2005.

Details please call 03-78757767 or go to www.cetdem.org.my/organic_farming
or email f21@cetdem.org.my

Wednesday, August 31, 2005

Volunteer for Special Olympics

Hi, I'm Jee Ching from Malaysian Care and Special Olympics Selangor & KL.(SOSKL)

SOSKL is organising 2nd State Games for our Special Athletes.

Date: 9/9/05 (Friday)

Games: Badminton & Bocce

Venue: Cheras area (to be confirmed)

Date: 11/9/05 (Sunday)
Games: Track & Field

Venue: Stadium Football KL

Date: 12/9/05(Monday)

Games: Bowling

Venue: Cosmic Bowl, Sg Wang

On Sunday, 11/9, we are expecting about 150 special athletes and we need 150 volunteers too. Hope u can join us in this event. There will be a rehearsal and volunteer briefing on 5 Sept at Stadium Football KL, the competition venue. Really hope u can join us. Please let me know whether u can make it. Bring along your friends and families to join us too.

Looking forward for your reply.

Thanks & God Bless

Jee Ching

Monday, August 29, 2005

[hatifriends] Volunteer for national cancer week in september.

Dear All,
The national cancer society(NCSM- http://www.cancer.org.my )( we are not MAKNA! in case some of you think so J ) will be doing a cancer awareness weekend on the 16th – 18th of September 2005 ( Friday to Sunday) at the Bangsar shopping centre and I would like to request for volunteers for the days mentioned. Besides that, we may also need volunteers for the set up on the night of the 15th – late starting at 10 pm or so.
The jobs will entail simple things like running the 2 booths we are having there and giving out information- people who are cancer survivors or have had experience as cancer carers are encouraged to join us. (Besides the other partner organisations also there). I will most likely need volunteers in shift duties as below.
Also, if you have any exciting event that can help pull in the crowd and would like to offer your services… please also do get in touch with me…
These include
{ children’s activities-
{ singing
{ dancing
{ poetry recital
{ Book reading and so on…..

Please write to me directly at brian@lariche.net and I will sort out the times best.
Hope to hear from some of you.
warm regards

Brian Lariche
Project person
National Cancer Society of Malaysia .

Monday, August 08, 2005

Life long employability

According to the DPM, graduates should now focus on life long employability and not life long employment.

Original Article

This is good thing... which would settle for questions like "why do you keep hoping jobs ?"

Then answer is that "I want to increase my employability..."

This is bad for companies for good for employees.

How much of your money goes to charity- The Star August 7th 2005

Original article

Important facts:
1. Charity organization like NKF only receives 10% the value which you paid.
2. NKF received like RM8k per month out of the 10 cents received from bookmark sales. For past 11 months, the total valued received is RM79K. (This is not really a big amount)
3. The are around five major charity groups which collect fund from public.
3a. NKF (National Kidney Foundation Fund)
3b. National Cancer Council (MAKNA)
3c. WWF Malaysia
3d. Kiwanis Down syndrome foundation
3e. Shelther Homes for Children.
4. MAKNA has around 40k contributors which contributed around RM1 million monthly.
5. Under the direct-debit program, money would be debited to the foundation first before being paid to solicitors like Sharity Greetings(M) and Asian Direct Support.
6. NKF official said 30% of deductions went to Asian Support Direct for overheads in the first four months of the programme, with another 10% to Sharity Greetings to maintain the database of donors. For every month after that, Sharity Greetings receives 10% of the donors' contributions.
7. Granton and Appco are both part of the Cobra Group, a direct marketing company based in Britain and Australia. Appco operates Asian Support Direct as full subsidiary.
8. Related law:
The Societies Act 1966, he said, required any organisation registered under the Act to obtain approval from the Registrar to collect money from the public.

--------------What do I learn ------------------------
1. At least I know how cross-marketing collaboration works.
2. Not all money goes to the fund but at least we are providing jobs as well.
3. Don't take things for granted, even maintaining the fund requires funding.

Thursday, August 04, 2005

Life is painful

Everything is associated with positive and negative energy.

Being nice is also painful because of the following problems:
1. Not appreciated.
2. Being manipulated or make used of.
3. Not achieving objectives.
4. Get into a lot of misunderstanding and dispute.

However, depending on mindset, it is still worth it for me. There are many times I vowed not to do anything that is related to human or people, because I was deeply disappointed with the response. Nevertheless, every morning I worked up and was recharged again, I want to deal with human being again. To me, it is worth it and that is the beauty which balances off the pain.

Therefore, it is appropriate to “eat like poor man, stay healthy” – Yin & Yang

Don't ever give up on other people, for they are also having the same pain as you would. You have the power to make a difference.

Tuesday, August 02, 2005

NCSM is looking for volunteers

Dear All,
NCSM (Not MAKNA :-)) is looking for volunteers. The details are as below. Please contact Adeline or Anne and join in to help make our campaign a success.
As usual The National Cancer Society will be running the annual Cancer Awareness Week in September. This time, the week will be from 12-18th Sept. There would be exhibitions , info booths and awareness programs in different malls in KL. Also, there will be schools, companies, banks, embassies etc who will be participating in the Wear Yellow Day which is on Friday, 17th where participants make a donation and don a Yellow ribbon to show their support for cancer!
In conjunction with these, this time around we will be running a competition with the wristbands during the CAWeek. So far, we have our wristbands that sell at all Starbucks outlets all over Malaysia But for the Yellow week, the contest will be targetted at those who purchase a band and thus become eligible to participate in this contest.
So we need volunteers on 6th and 7th (Saturday& Sunday) August-this weekend-to help insert the contest cards into small packages. We have 30000 cards to be inserted!! The staff will be there from 10am- 5pm but those who can come need only to offer the time they can spare and what is convenient to them.
So will need loads of volunteeers...as they say.." more hands make light work".

If you can help, call me or Anne at 03-26987300/26917300. Even if it is
a few hours that you can spare, we'd be thankful and appreciative.
Your time and efforts for these projects is greatly appreciated and will
surely help us in the success of our September Cancer Awreness Programs.

Brian Lariche's food collection-Aug05

Dear All,
Here is the list of items I need for the homes. As you know these months are the ‘driest’ before the festive generosity kicks in.
I will update the list in a day or 2.
As usual, the drop of point for the items is
40, Lorong Maarof,
Bangsar Park.
59000 KL

I would prefer the items be dropped on Tuesday or Thursday between 5.30 and 7.30.

Back to the food collection: PLEASE remember to buy generic brands if possible as it is value for money.
Rice- 200 Kilos
Mee Hoon - 20 Kilos
Biscuits- Cream Crackers and assorted As much as possible
Condensed milk-100 tins
Evaporated Milk- 20 tins
Powdered Milk- for coffee usually so generic brands fine.
Jam -30 bottles each collection
Peanut Butter- 10 bottles
Ribena 8 bottles
Maggi Mee-300 packets
Soya Sauce- thick
Soya Sauce Thin
Oyster sauce
Planta magarine ( must be TINNED )12 tins -large
Cordial-orange and rose syrup- 10 bottles of each ( large 2 litre ones are best)
Instant Coffee- 20 soft packs
Tea- bags and tea leaves
Cooking Oil-15 bottles of 5 kgs
Green Peas- 50 tins
Baked beans- 50 tins
sardines- 100 tins
Tuna- 100 tins
Any other canned food including corn beef
NON FOOD/Household
ANTISEPTIC- 20 bottles. .
Dishwashing soap. 8 bottles if large ones or the tubs- 20
Insect repellent.- 8 tins Baygon or ridsect.
Shampoo- 30 Bottles large
Bathing soap- 100 pieces/bars
Baby diapers- Small & Medium& large
Candles- for power cuts useful NOT decorative
Rubbish Bags- large and medium
Adult Diapers- LOTS!

Thanks for your support.
warm regards

Brian Lariche
Associate Partner
The Liaison Combination-TLC Sdn Bhd
4, Dataran Tunku, Bukit Tunku
50480 Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia

Office phone:6201 4240
Office Fax: 6201 0240

cell phone:+60122975613

Monday, August 01, 2005

fwd email: Mars is going to be a second moon of earth for a day

If you give up when it's winter, you will miss the promise of your spring, the beauty of your summer, fulfilment of your fall.

Mars is going to be a second moon of earth for a day. NO ONE ALIVE TODAY WILL EVER SEE THIS AGAIN. The Red Planet (MARS) is about to be spectacular! This month and next,Earth is catching up with Mars in an encounter that will culminate in the closest approach between the two planets in recorded history. The next time Mars may come this close is in 2287. Due to the way Jupiter's gravity tugs on Mars and perturbs its orbit, astronomers can only be certain that Mars has not come this close to Earth in the last 5,000 years, but it may be as long as 60,000 years before it happens again. The encounter will culminate on August 27th when Mars comes to within 34,649,589 miles of Earth and will be (next to the> moon) the brightest object in the night sky. It will attain a magnitude of -2.9 and will appear 25.11 arc seconds wide. By August 27, Mars will look as large as the full moon to the naked eye. Mars will be easy to spot.

At the beginning of August it will rise in the east at 10p.m. and reach its azimuth at about 3 a.m. by the end of August when the two planets are closest, Mars will rise at nightfall and reach its highest point in the sky at 12:30a.m. That's pretty convenient to see something that no human being has seen in recorded history. So, mark your calendar at the beginning of August to see Mars grow progressively brighter and brighter throughout the month. Share this with your family, friends, children and grandchildren.

Thursday, July 21, 2005

How to avoid arrogance & jealousy

During times of glory, don’t forget your root.
- Don’t over celebrate.
During times of difficulty, don’t forgo your root
- Don’t over contemplate.

Sunday, July 17, 2005

fwd email: fake appeal

Guys.. I think this is faked one!

Just take note of the pattern and don't waste time in the future.

A couple of days ago, my daughter, she's 6years old, her name is Fatima.Well, she was playing on the street, in front of our house,and then out of no where, this car came out and crashed into her!

I was so frightened and angered at the driver, but it ended out to be, that the drivers brakes had been shot, and he wasn't able to stop.Luckily, my daughter, was able to avoid death, but she is in very serious condition. Right now, as I speak, she's in the hospital, but the thing is,she has a serious injury. It's internal bleeding, and it's bad to say,but we don't have any health insurance, and we don't have enough money to pay for the operation.

So I made a deal with a company, BCC inc and they told me, for>every person that will foward this email, they will donate 3 cents to>the operation.>>THIS IS NO JOKE. We attached encoding, that tracks how many times>this message is fowarded. SO PLEASE, FOWARD THIS LETTER TO EVERY PERSON>ON YOUR LIST.IT WILL BE VERY MUCH APPRECIATED!!! THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!

Harlina shahrazad Hamzah (Ms)>c/o:>Philips Medical Systems - Malaysia>
No 76 Jalan Universiti
46200 Petaling Jaya
Selangor Darul Ehsan
Tel. : 603-750.5561
Fax : 603-755.2661
E-mail: harlinashahrazad.hamzah@philips.com








Saturday, July 09, 2005

fwd email: Don't ever take panadol


FYI... ....One real story from a guy... My husband was working in a hospital as an IT engineer, as the hospital is planning to set up a database of its patient. And he knows some of the doctor quite well.

The doctors used to tell him that whenever they have a headache, they are not willing to take PANADOL (PARACETMOL). In fact, they will turn to Chinese Herbal Medicine or find other alternatives. This is because Panadol is toxic to the body, and it harms theliver.

According to the doctor, Panadol will reside in the body for atLeast 5 years. And according to the doctor, there used to be an Incident where an air stewardess consumes a lot of Pnadol during herMenstrual as she needs to stand all the time. She's now in her early 30's, and she needs to wash her kidney (DIALYSIS) every month.

As said by the doctor that whenever we have a headache, that's because it is due to the electron/Ion imbalance in the brain. As an alternative solution to cope with this matter, they suggested that we buy 1 or 2 cans of isotonic drink (eg.100PLUS), and mix it with drinking wateraccording to a ratio of 1:1 or 1:2 (simply, it means one cup 100plus,one cup water. or 2 cups water).

Me and my husband have tried this on several occasions, and it seems to work well. Another method will be to submerge your feet in a basin of warm water so that it brings the blood pressure down from your throbbing head.

As Panadol is a pain killer, the more Panadol you take, the Lesser would be your threshold for pain (your endurance level for pain). We all will fall ill as we aged, for woman, we would need to go through childbirth. Imagine that we had spent our entire life popping quite a substantial amount of Panadol (Pain Killer) when you need to have a surgery or operation, you will need a much more amount of general anesthetic to numb your surgical pain than the average person who seldom or rarely takes Panadol.

If you have a very high intake of Panadol throughout your life (Migraine, Menstrual cramps) it is very likely that normal general anesthetic will have no effects on you as your body is pumped full with Panadol and your body is so used to pain killer that you would need a much stronger pain killer, Morphine?? Value your life, THINK b4 you easily pop that familiar pill into your mouth again. Please send this to people you care about.

Forwarded by choo.chui.peng@jusco.com.my

Tom Cruise’s recent interview with Matt Lauer expressed concern over drug’s side effect.

Well, at least try not too :)

Sunday, July 03, 2005

English Test

hi all,

have some english test...

The following are my scores and link to the test.. well, just for fun.

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Friday, July 01, 2005

[hatifriends] volunteers needed

Hello Angels!!

You are cordially invited to the FIESTA MOBILITI, this coming Saturday, July 2nd 2005. This is an event organized by the Persatuan Mobility. Held in the Main Hall, Bangunan Sultan Abdul Aziz Shah (Spastic Centre), Jalan Utara, Petaling Jaya (Next to Crystal Crown Hotel). Attached is the location map to that place.

Damai DPA is one of the participant of this event, and on that day, they'll need volunteer's help, in setting up stall, etc. Anyone can spare your time to help them out?

For details and other information, do contact me or Ms Bobee from Damai at 016-6907234.

Highlights of the event would be sales of brand new items (bags, leather goods etc), used books, magazines, clothes etc, food/drinks, & games and competition offering attractive prizes. There will be lots of fun at the FIESTA. so don't miss this opportunity to enjoy yourself while helping a charitable cause!!


Niza (012-6979795)

Saturday, June 25, 2005

cultivation of the heart

Life is this simple:

It is really a measure of your heart, either you are good or bad person.
Those with bad heart cannot be successful and must be endowed with more suffering. Failure to recognize this theory caused us to dwindle from day to day.
The worst human being in this world are those with a lot of money and came with bad heart. The most pitiful human being in this world are those with little money and came with a lot of resentment and hatred. If they can get rid of such negative energy, good things will follow.

For decades, people doubt such theories, mainly because everybody want to be god, everybody want to be more than themselves. They want to have more intelligence, more sex, more money and etc.

This is why one needs to make a vow in order to have a wish granted on their behalf.

In conclusion, cultivation of the heart is important.


Sunday, June 19, 2005

[hatifriends] Details of Brian's food collection you should know for your reference.

Dear All,
I hope this e-mail finds you all well.
As I have gotten a few enquiring emails over the week, I would like to list down the homes I collect for as a reference for you all. This list is NOT static but changes from time to time but this is as it stands now in June 2005.
This collection effort is a personal one and has been going on for the past 4/5 years. These organisations I collect for I know through my work in HIV/AIDS or through my company, TLC Sdn Bhd. It is done for free with the gracious support from people on my e-mail list of whom many have since become friends.

The collection works this way.
I send out an e-mail on odd months with a list of items. Hopefully then the items are delivered on even months with a 2 month supply.
Ideally people reply via e-mail and commit to the items they wish to contribute.
I send an updated list again.
I top up the items left with the financial help of a few long term friends/Supporters who provide the cash and the transport to buy the items.
When I reach the limit, I send out a note.

The above is the ideal, but due to my work and travel and urgent requests from the homes, there are sometimes changes in the schedule.
I also do not collect old clothes or fetch items as I do not have transport. HOWEVER, if you have items that you wish to donate (other than clothes), please do let me know and I will match you with the correct organisation that it can go to. Then you can liaise with the organisation directly. From time to time, I highlight requests from other NGOs/Communities.

Finally, if you have been put on this list accidentally, please let me know, and I will remove you at once.

Thank you all for your support. Please remember that this kind of work has to be a long term effort and ongoing THROUGH OUT the year and not JUST at the festive season. Also donor fatigue sadly means that the people who need help just get less or worse, nothing at all. If anyone out there has the interest to start a similar collection for other NGOs, please let me know how we can work together.

Warm regards and thanks again for taking time to read this.

Brian Lariche
Associate Partner
The Liaison Combination-TLC Sdn Bhd
4, Dataran Tunku, Bukit Tunku
50480 Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia
Office phone:6201 4240
Office Fax: 6201 0240
cell phone:+60122975613

LIST OF HOMES I COLLECT FOR!- some I supply everything from the list, a few just specific items they ask for.
1. WAO- women's shelter
P.O. Box 493, Jalan Sultan,
46760 Petaling Jaya, Selangor

Tel: 03-79563488
Fax: 03-79563237
Email: wao@po.jaring.my
Website: www.wao.org.my

2. Rumah Soleha
A shelter for HIV+ women and children in Cheras.
Address is a secret but they were featured many times in the News though address not made public.

3. Pelangi Community Foundation.
Contact Person: Rainer RotthoffTel: 03-4025 2820 or 019-743 7232Website: www.pelangifoundation.org
Presently located in Puchong but moving to Terengganu
I will be the Admin person based in KL who will collect donations and so on for PELANGI.

4. Rumah Ozanam- In the midst of a revamp
Home for HIV+ women and children48100 Batu ArangSelangor

5. Rumah Jaireh- New Home
Home for HIV+ women and children
Batu Arang

drug drop in centre in Chow Kit and in Pudu

7. Food Not Bombs – Soup Kitchen
A group of young people who serve vegetarian food to the homeless outside St. John’s cathedral( Bukit Nenas) in KL on Thursdays and Sundays at 6 PM. All volunteers and an effort that deserves support.

Thursday, June 16, 2005

[hatifriends] To help little Jacqueline Ng

Hi guys,

I'm dropping a word for 3-year-old Jacqueline Ng, who is suffering
from leukaemia.
She is in dire need of funds for her treatment spanning 2 years
which includes chemotherapy and injections. The amount needed is
estimated to be RM150,000.
A press interview has been conducted with the family and her appeal
will be carried out through a fund via MCA.
But I thought of spreading the message first, if anyone's interested
to help out.
Her father, Ng Chen Lian, a renovation contractor, is out of work
since the little girl fell ill. He ferries her to and fro from the
Her mother is a stay-at-home mom to care for the family and other
sister Adeline, 6 yrs.

The Ng family has spent RM30,000 so far and dad had to sell his car
to finance the bills. It should be able to last them about 3 weeks or
more the most.

If you are interested in lending a hand, do contact Ng at 012 211 4478.

Or, alternatively, feel free to drop me any queries. Thanks!

Susan Tam

Monday, June 06, 2005

Food collection month June 2005

Dear All,
Thanks for the quick response for the food collection request last month. Here is the new list below.
40,Lorong Maarof, Bangsar Park
59000 KL….

For those new to the list, I collect food stuff and other household items for a couple of NGOS that mainly have HIV+ clients and/or battered women and children. I prefer the items to be bought and sent to my house for redistribution so I have no issue of accounting for money to all. This formula has worked well in the last 5 years or so and I would like to stick to it. ALSO, I am happy to share this mode of working with NGOs with anyone else who would like to start it themselves.

Back to the food collection: PLEASE remember to buy generic brands if possible as it is value for money.
1. Rice- 100 Kilos
2. Mee Hoon - 20 Kilos
3. Biscuits- Cream Crackers and assorted As much as possible
4. Condensed milk-100 tins
5. Evaporated Milk- 20 tins
6. Powdered Milk- for coffee usually so generic brands fine.
7. Jam -30 bottles each collection – have 10 now
8. Peanut Butter- 10 bottles
9. Ribena 8 bottles
10. Insect repellent.- 8 tins Baygon or ridsect.
11. Maggi Mee-300 packets
12. Planta magarine ( must be TINNED )12 tins -large
13. Cordial-orange and rose syrup- 10 bottles of each ( large 2 litre ones are best)
14. Instant Coffee- 20 soft packs
15. Tea- bags and tea leaves
16. cooking Oil-15 bottles of 5 kgs
17. Green Peas- 50 tins
18. Baked beans- 50 tins
19. sardines- 100 tins
20. Tuna- 100 tins
21. Any other canned food including corn beef
NON FOOD/Household
ANTISEPTIC- 20 bottles. .
Dishwashing soap. 8 bottles if large ones or the tubs- 20
Shampoo- 30 Bottles large
Bathing soap- 100 pieces/bars
Baby diapers- large
Candles- for power cuts useful NOT decorative
Rubbish Bags- large and medium

Brian Lariche
Associate Partner
The Liaison Combination-TLC Sdn Bhd
4, Dataran Tunku, Bukit Tunku
50480 Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia

Office phone:6201 4240
Office Fax: 6201 0240

cell phone:+60122975613
Also, for those who can help, Please lend a hand to the deaf and sponsor one or more students, totally or partially for a deaf camp coming up.

Details are as follows
Theme: Be One
Venue: Kuala Lumpur/Penang, Malaysia
Dates: 29 JULY- 5 AUGUST, 2005
My suggestion is to sponsor 50-60% of the cost of 700RM per person and leave the rest to the student to come up with. So an investment in a deaf person’s life to the tune of 300-400 ringgit per person will give them an opportunity to meet with other deaf youth from around the world and learn and share with them. If you desire to sponsor more, please go ahead. Please do think about it and perhaps get together with a few people and sponsor or part sponsor one or more youth.

The details to contact Lucy is: Ms. Lucy Lim, Executive (YMCA Community Work) Tel : 03-2274 1439 ext 119, e-mail : lucylim@ymcakl.com

Sunday, June 05, 2005

best friend wedding

Yesterday was a great day for me as I became the first ever best man for my best friend's wedding. It was church-going style and the experiences was really great.

Bride Groom: Mr. Yap Wei Hong (Roromot)
Bride : Ms. Rachel Pang Wei Kwan

The early struggle:

As excited as we were, the two of us, Wilson Puon (the water buffalo) and I were given priority task of being the chauffeur and best man respectively.

Make no mistake that it was all happy go lucky - we had to scramble from bed in the wee hour of 3:00 Am, put ourselves into proper attire and pretended that it was okay to leave home with leather shoe at 4:00Am in the morning. What the heck ?  - we then rushed to pick up another girl and subsequently gathered at Roromot's house at Puchong.

Not surprising to us, Roromot was already in full fledged stamina as well as in full suit. Sooner or later, we were joined by a legion of bachelors heading towards Melaka to take the bride away from her beloved parents.

So hit the highway and it was like 1 hour and half and I was like half awaken and half dreaming. Then we finally reached a humble place somewhere in Melaka, and the whole bunch of us got out. Then waited and waited, the bride was not ready yet... sigh, we were supposed to leave Melaka for K.L to attend the church reception.


The whole legion swamped the house and moved upstairs where the bride was protected by few less-muscular young ladies : the sisterhood of Tarcian. The chief negotiator at the bride side was a familiar face to us, she is always a sleek, silver-tongue talker and she has the guts. Since our job was to penetrate that door with diplomatic behaviour, we had to comply with anything.

The first question to Roromot: "What was the sweetest memory you had with the bride according to her opinion ?"

--> Roromot said he cheated her that he had a flat tire and then walked from K.L to Melaka ? wow, did he said that?, well I don't remember but it is something to do with flat tire.. The chief negotiator said "Wrong answer", and we were punished with two glasses of sweet soya bean. I being the lucky one, was supposed to drink it on behalf of Roromot. Then the episode followed by another 4 questions which I don't remembered the questions and answers, but we were supposed to consume the following delicacies to remind Roromot of the kind of romantic experiences:

  • 3 fresh lemon - sour time
  • 3 bitter melon - bitter time
  • Many Cili Padi sandwich- hot time
  • milk-shake - Tongkat Ali buatan Melaka (for the bride groom only).

I told you I was lucky right?

ok, the Roromot and chief negotiator talked about money and settled, they wanted USD 9999.99 and we gave them 100111000 Japenese Yen (Japanese Yen is stronger than USD now). The door opened and it was a moment of muah-muah and sob sob... (u know) I wasn't overwhelmed yet. The couple did french kisses and we won (the guys won!), we got the girl,hooray!

Then went downstairs for tea ceremony and photo sessions and we were ready to rock K.L

Everyone got into a vehicle and trailed behind the main car, it was a Toyota Harrier and we hit the highway again. We were driving at comfortable speed, the decoration to the car attracted by-passers and some even "Gong xi, Gong xi" us.

Moment of Truth:

We reached the FGA church at Kuchai Lama, Old Klang Road,1 and half hours later, accompanied by even bigger legion of people. It was also my big time as I had a lot of tasks to be carried out.

Everyone unloaded and went upstairs to the main hall, the church guys were already hard on their preparations. As times went on, invited guess soon filled the hall and then the bride appeared and that was it, we have to start.

The MC, Mr. Joshua Lim got everyone to stand up for the march in. Me and Roromot moved to the front side waiting for the bride to be escorted from the back. Two young girls followed by a page-boy and then the bride's maid took the lead. My first task was to receive the rings from the page-boy.

Then everybody seated automatically (they shouldn't actually), the bride and groom remained standing until MC announced worshiping via means of songs. Then walked up the stage was Uncle Sam (hui) and his team. Together they rock the house with five holy yet hippie songs. One of them goes like this "For rest ...." and the last song was "Magnificent" where I was supposed to move chairs to accommodate the couple for the next session;message from the Pastor.

The pastor talked about God as our strength, we must think of no one but God at times of trouble because he is our true father. It is the intention of God for us to get marry and etc. He ended by saying "Children is God's richest heritage", that is why you must married lar (u know what i mean ?).

Then came the solemnization and registration part. I was to go up the stage with the bride and groom along with bride's maid. This is the time where they exchanged vows and I was supposed to hand over the rings to bride and groom respectively. Then the registration part followed by highlight of the day.. The slide show.

The Slide Show:

The show brought us down memory lane looking at Roromot's and Rachel's childhood to adulthood and then on how they met each other. It had series of nice photos and music. The parents of the bride and groom were the greatest. I could see the expression from their faces when baby photos of each being displayed, it was full of happiness. and I got to tell you, I was overwhelmed as well - i just did, and not sure why.

Perhaps I reckon that it is a great thing for two separate people from different town to meet up and be married. What most admired me is that they took up the courage to bring us such a day, I know the effort was enormous as I haven't even started dating. The crowd laughed flat out when the photo of Rachel's mimicking tomb raider being displayed.

After the slide show, they lighted the candles and then came the final worship and then they became husband and wife, when two become one. Then march-out and photo session.

ok, my job was almost done. We all went one stair below for refreshment. The food was ok and some people thought that I was the bride groom (because I was also wearing black suit.) Anyway, who cares, still have to eat right!


The dinner was held at Mines Resort city (from Sungai Besi toll, take left turning and reach a round-about, then take 2 o'clock and into the highway. Then pass on toll and turn left. At traffic light turn left again and then you should be there..)

A great place it was, with an artificial beach and nice architecture. Wilson and I were given a room and the moment we hit the bed, we flat-out until 6PM. We got ourselves ready and moved to the restaurant. As we got in, Uncle Sam(hui) was already there.. doing a finger or two on the organ for rehearsing, waiters were his audience then.

I kept myself busy as facilitator, trying to get things organized. As the crowds built up, things got more fun. Then at 8:20, the dinner officially began and everybody was up and standing to cheer the march in again. I got myself seated at table 8 with Wilson, Ah Tong (Tarcian), Eric How (CHS), Sue Eng(CHS), Jing Yi, Mei Yoke, and 4 girls from Melaka(Yong Yong, Janet, Teo and Swee) and also Yong's boyfriend; Lenny.

Then uncle sam started doing:

"十个女子,九个认小,明明是老,她说不是。。。。。" (in Cantonese please)

The following are the dishes:
1. Four season hot plate.
2. Shark Fin.
3. Lemon Chicken. (not lemon again...)
4. Fish
5. Mushroom and brocoli.
6. Friend rice.
7. Desert.

Don't ask me anything because I was treated with special meal for each - Vegetarian.

We had a series of entertainment and some games and then the toss; and  then it was finally completed.

We had chance to talk to the Melaka girls and found that they have nothing in common with Parameswara. Nevertheless, my opinion is that country girls are more "less-stress" and happier. City girls are stressed and ehm.... stressed. Both also pretty. (that is right.. that is right) But country girls don't smoke, that is good thing.

Nobody was really that drunk .. you know. So there was no drunken master display at the end of it. Orderly, people started to leave and came the nite.

It was a great day for everyone.

下文:The one thing I like about attending wedding is that everyone gets to be equal. The people around you sitting at the same table might be your business competitor or enemy, yet because of the wedding, you would get a chance to square off for a moment and just to enjoy the wine.

For relatives, it is a great time for gathering and resolve differences. For friends, it is a good opportunity to see how each other had progressed in life.

Most importantly, everybody was treated equally and with lots of love.

Thursday, June 02, 2005

Capital is rushing into Malaysia ..

KLCI was on a gradual rise during the start of 2005 to a seven year high until recently it dropped to a record low. Analyst say is due to investor selling based on marginal facilities, meaning they are selling because it is thought to be at the highest rates now. It was at those time which we hear people talking about the Ringgit being unpeg from the USD. These strong words are taken seriously by investor all over, spread of month behave in the speed of lighting, we soon witnessed movement of foreign funds into the market especially towards the blue chips. Sadly, no one even care that the word “high possibility” is missing from the syntax.

Driver could be due to the fact that investor are seeing a negative trend coming when government decided not to remove the Ringgit peg against dollar.

So, market sentiment is as real as you would assume. Due to the fact that nobody is able to have a overall picture of what is happening, scare rumors and news would spawn wonderful effects when no one has the time to justify thoroughly reality-potential of informations.

According to analyst:
1.When the Ringgit is unpeg, real estate's prices will drop because the Ringgit is now stronger compare to other currencies. Recently, high-end housing in K.L up 20%.
2.The case for Peg are:
  • Since Malaysia are exports of oil and gas, which is priced in USD it will suffer revenue lost when it revalues the ringgit. Mean less sales because of higher cost. (Japanese Yen and other currency are higher against the USD now)
  • Malaysia is also competing with China for foreign direct investment. Thus, if the ringgit is stronger, less investment coming in.

Some analyst feels that the reluctant of government to withdraw the peg is holding back the economy as it gives rise to inflation for imported goods and slowing down imports activities.

During 1998, Mahathir capital control is aiming at preventing foreign investor from cashing out. Little money(any currencies) can be transported from Malaysia at one go. The good thing was that it kept the Ringgit supply low and maintained its value at that time.

Now it is the opposite as everyone is waiting to cash out after the peg is removed. Thus if there is no specific deadline given for unpeg, the possibility of cash out is unknown.

Friday, May 27, 2005

Walk-in Interview for professional

Petronas recently created a surprised move of inviting public to walk-in interview for professional executive role.


The positions available are:


I am sorry but this is quite a shocker.. usually you have walk-in interview because you are desperate for someone. This means that they are either having an large expansion or been having tough times in finding such talented people. Well, if I had been in the same field, I might go for it. Then again, if such area is so much less in supply, I might not go for it too because I would already been attached to a comfortable environment.

Well, so probably to those universities goer, maybe you should consider such professional degree to be pursued. Try to avoid Computering and Information Technology ok ?

Thursday, May 26, 2005

Malaysian Humanitarian Award

Dear all
attached is the Malaysian humanitarian Award basic details.
Please nominate people who are worthy.
Warm regards

Brian Lariche
Associate Partner
The Liaison Combination-TLC Sdn Bhd
4, Dataran Tunku, Bukit Tunku50480 Kuala Lumpur,
Office phone:6201 4240
Office Fax: 6201 0240
cell phone:+60122975613

Wednesday, May 25, 2005

fwd email: 可口可樂總裁曾說一句話..很短卻很讚


可口可樂總裁曾說: 我們每個人都像小丑,玩著五個球,
五個球是你的~~ 工作、健康、家庭、朋友、靈魂,




Monday, May 23, 2005



Sunday, May 15, 2005

FOXSports.com - More Sports- Miracle League a field of dreams for some

FOXSports.com - More Sports- Miracle League a field of dreams for some

put aside The Apprentice, American idol, Survival and etc.. let give yourself sometime to charity...

making a difference in someone else's life.

Friday, May 13, 2005

[hatifriends] Fwd: VOLUNTEERS NEEDED - MNS

The coordinator for Sungai Buloh Project needs 2 volunteers who have skill and experience in photography to teach school children about basic photography. This school children will participate in Sungai Buloh Photo Competition, part of the campaign to save Sungai Buloh Forest Reserve. Tentative dates for the training are 9 and 23 of July 2005.
Those who have the skill and experience, please come forward and get involve in the campaign to save Sungai Buloh Forest Reserve, Malaysia's oldest forest reserve and a treasure of our nature. It is now threatened by development.
Call me at MNS (03-2287 9422) or reply my email by giving your name and phone number if you are interested.
Thank you and regards,

Tuesday, May 10, 2005

Fwd: [hatifriends] Volunteers for cancerlink

Dear All
The Cancerlink Foundation is looking for 5 MALE (they already have enough ladies- but no harm in asking if you are interested) volunteers for a camp called - VICTORY VENTURES CAMP
The details are as below;
Date: 28th – 31st May (Sat to Tuesday)
Place: Lumut, Perak

Job descriptions are as below:
Two men - who are prepared to work by night, from 8.00 p.m to 8.00a.m the next day.
Their Duty is to do night patrol - to ensure safety and security. It is not a tough job, as the camp is in a Resort.
Three men, between the age Group of 25 and 35 years who are willing to be Team Leaders for these young people, participating in the activities of the Victory Ventures Camp.
Qualities required are:
Empathetic by nature, who understand the traumatic experiences of Youth who have experienced Cancer( or believe they can).

Who are willing to "go the extra mile" to make these "Victory Ventures Champs" get the benefit of the Camp and take it one step further!

Who are able bodied, eager to enjoy each day of our wonderful life, and willing to experience the mutual enrichment of sharing and caring.

Transport, board and lodging is provided( to and from cancelink in PJ near Amcorp Mall for the duration of VICTORY VENTURES CAMP in Lumut, Perak, from 28th.May(leaving very early) and returning after lunch on 31st. May 2005)
PLEASE contact the person in charge directly;
Joanne Fernandez - cancerlk@hotmail.com or phone her office at 03 20945566

Brian Lariche
Associate Partner
The Liaison Combination-TLC Sdn Bhd
4, Dataran Tunku, Bukit Tunku
50480 Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia
Office phone:6201 4240
Office Fax: 6201 0240
cell phone:+60122975613

Monday, May 02, 2005





Taiwan tourist attraction..

Taiwan recently been hot on promoting tourism among Malaysia, Singapore and etc. I figure they are trying to pull more people into the country to soften China's stand on its Independence approach. China has bascially given its military a legal right to attack Taiwan (as the press knows it) in case the latter moves towards formal independence. With presence of many tourist around Taiwan, such action may have to be deferred. So, if you guys are promoting peace, please promote and visit Taiwan famous for its theme park, tea-farm houses, natural attractions and shopping.

An article claimed that Singapore hard-decision to lift its 40 years ban on casino is meant to soften the reliance on its manufacturing sector and take a creative step towards its tourism industry. As we have predicted, it is meant to solved human-oriented problems, either having more targeted customers or less non-targeted customers is good for them. The main reason cited as below:

1. Reduce reliance on manufacturing sector
2. Improve construction sector
3. Improve ties between Malaysia and Singapore.
4. Create brand new tourism image.

Is Singapore too, felt pressure to promote itself as a tourism attraction in Asia ?

Anyhow, I like the idea of Singapore being more tourism-oriented than so called high-tech oriented, due to its geographical size. Similiar to Penang, one felt much more fun by travelling around an Island with restricted borders.

Sunday, May 01, 2005




我总是觉得,有压力而念佛会比无压力念佛更有感应。不只在末法时代开悟是有多难还是多易。在这个多姿多彩的时代,很多时候是没有限度的。比如,你想看什么都有,没有钱而可以买贵重的东西。佛陀常扬的无常,好像每个人都懂了, 但是还不能从中得到开悟。因为所有问题都好像有办法解决。比如,得不到某样东西,可以把他买回来。














china - everybody business ?

recent analysis about war spat between China and Japan yields the following conclusion:

1. Japan realized that it has reached a point of saturation where it is impossible for the next break-through without invading the world largest market. In terms of market capitalization and geographic as well as human-aging factor, Japan is seeing a non-growth behaviour. Therefore, they have to move into China where both chinese and japanese have similiar body features compared to westerner or Eurasian.
2. Japan figure that one way to move into china without much hassle is to create a brotherly image among Chinese and Japanese. They do realize their ugly political past and thus took effort to alter the history in hope that the new generation of chinese living in the mainland would somehow forget about their ancestor misery. Japan claimed that the effort is aimed to give its own young generation a positive image about its country; children can't grow up in a positive manner when the history is teaching them to hate its own country. In actual fact, this brain-wash is meant for Chinese youngster.
3. India, Chinese and other countries is seeing more and more stable economic growth and thus Japan would be losing its ground as world second largest economy simply because the market share diminishes slowly. One way is to due with this is to J-V with the world's biggest population.
4. The older generation, if they have nothing better to do, would find it difficult to accept someone who has always been a woman and now claims to be a man. They find this invasion of integrity. They cannot pretend nothing has happened when it had.

Saturday, April 30, 2005

the Sun - April 30 2005

Business Features..
1. Don't fear asia's economic growth, Europe told
European Commissioner of trade been working hard to get Europe countries to be more aggressive in Asian trading. He cited the below expectation output as that of European countries' introspections and fearfulness over Asia's astoshining economic growth. --> Well this is actually just to please the public. In my analysis, the commissioner is wooing Europeans to come into the Asian market so to allow more expansion room for Asian ( he was speaking at Singapore) as a favor to Asian countries. According to the article, the published reason for such dry interest of European countries towards Asian in terms of trade is due to issues of intellectual properties, market access for European services(means long term investment benefits) and high industries tariff. The commissioner stressed for one world, one community idealogy, urging Asian countries to put aside historical feelings and focuses on achievements. This is very unlikely for a country with population of one third of the world, many people have no equal opportunity for success.
2. Taking care of family business.
JP Morgan will be organizing an education program called the NextGen Leadership series aiming to help existing rich Asian family business to maintain the wealth to future generations. They are holding a seminar in shanghai coming next month on sustaining family enterprises.. To me they are right on spot because China is the place where there are many rich family enterprises and chinese believes in a fact that a fortune would never last for 3 generations unless there is a third party involves. JP Morgan private banking has always been a lucrative business segment, serving clients such as Magnum and etc. They are successful because of rich clients and the question is wouldn't normal client need their services too ? Therefore, if you are a start-up, it doesn't really matter if you have sound financial knowledge, what matters is you have to make the mark, then you can afford JP Morgan!
3. Banks go big-game hunting in Africa.
International banks are interested in Africa. First of all, we need to understand that Bank make money from interest rates. They provide interest rate for depositer and charge a higher interest rate for loaner, the balance margin goes to their pockets. Therefore, as long as someone needs money, bank is there to stay. Africa is famous for corrupted government, civil wars and presence of uncivilized minority. Unless they are invited by the government, international bankers won't dare big leap into the region. and why would the government wanted a third party to be involved, to me simply is for the reason of being third party.
See.. if an investor has a budget and engaged someone implementer to do it. The implementer have to spend some money to get the things done before asking for collection. In most cases, it is usually risky for the implementer to proceed without guaranteed from a third party because the investor might not have enough budget as claimed to be. If you look at the statistic, there is nothing usual about it. South Africa is growing at 4% to 5% and banks are enjoying 20%+ growth. Nevertheless, probably the market is untapped.
Technology Features
1. Airbus Superjumbo A380 - world first double decker bigger than boeing 747, just pass the flying test. Scheduled to be doing commercial good by 2006, it is publishing illustrations asking for airports to built docking station to meet its requirement. Well, basically it has more than expected, more passenger gates and etc...
So, despite its cost, how does it gonna help airline companies ? Would fetching two times more passenger helps to sort on demand for cost reductions and revenue efficiency ? I am not too sure. The innovating team are still working hard on the testing... risking own lifes and going being the extreme part, such as flying at ice-filled cloud to test the fan and etc. They are not eligible for insurance coverage because they have gone over the limit. What they intended to is to test to make sure that what we regarded as safety is really safety not by assumption of calculation but by solid techniques.

Tuesday, April 26, 2005

Fwd Email: [hatifriends] Service Civil International (SCI) Workcamp

Dearest all,

For those who has the passion to do their bit for community here is the chance for you. SCI Malaysia is organising a workcamp in May/June 2005.

lt's the time for you to contribute your efforts toward the community. For sure you will find it beneficial and of course enjoyable!Details as below:

Begin:May 28, 2005,
End: June 12, 2005

Topic: Antiracism, antifascism, refugees and ethnic minorities

Campcode:MY-1-1 Termeloh/Pahang, PenangThe camp will be in two parts. The first, is jointly with the Association of the Blind at Termeloh and the second with local partners, in Penang

Work: General maintenance, housekeeping, farm work, paintwork and minor repairs. Post Tsunami relief work in Penang restoration and improvement work on damaged properties.

Study: Encourage Life-long Peace activism; To identify / develop / promote ;The Art of Peace; and to provide a resource for continual peace education. Multi-Ethnic integrations and social harmony. Lessons we can learn about how a country can benefit by successfully integrating its diverse ethnic population and achieve social harmony.

Accommodation: Participants will be housed either in quarters or tent nearby. Toilet and washing facilities are modern Language: English Qualification: Prepared to do manual work and shared responsibility

Terminal/Region: The meeting place will be at Kuala Lumpur. Participants will be directed to a central meeting place called Sentral at the heart of the city

Extra: Sleeping bag, light musical instruments & songs, clothes for work, play, games and water sports. The participation fee is US 100(for international participants)

For those who are interested please contact Malaysian Co-ordinator: Stephen Nah at email: stephennah@yahoo.com or sci_malaysia@yahoo.com