[hatifriends] The White Ribbon Campaign

The White Ribbon Campaign (WRC) is an anti-violence against women campaign that is organised by Man's Action Network Against Violence (MAN.V) and All Women's Action Society (AWAM) to increase awareness of gender violence and for men to own up to their contribution to gender violence and to pledge to end this violence.

The WRC will be held at:
The Rainforest,
1 Utama on 27 November 2004 at 4.30pm.

We are looking for volunteer performers (singers, poets, dancers, etc) to help make the event more colourful. The WRC will be attended by a minister, local celebirites and foreign ambassadors to pledge against violence. We hope that performers could join in and push the message of nonviolence through song, poem, dance or whatever other means of performance. Please contact Alvin Ng at nglaioon@yahoo.com or call 017 - 888 6831 if you're interested to contribute a performance.
Thank you very much.

where is my heart

Sometimes I felt that my life is moving ahead... things are normal.. I am having slow increment of income, health gettings better, intelligence improves, options wider and opportunities ahead...

I go to work, eat dinner, sleep, meet some friends, get involve in business and plan for future.

Also try to get a girlfriend and hope to get marry.

but suddenly I wondered, where my heart is..? What is the motivation ?

Must I get a girl, go married and get into a lot of financial headache to kick-start the movitation ?? that is a bit silly isn't it ? Or maybe the motivation is to carry on living the life that is seems right ahead of me, I can see there is a path ready already..good or bad I not sure but something is there waiting for me. All the people around you are the audience, some waiting to laugh at you, some waiting to watch some excitement.

I have no answer yet...

USA - Creativity

I heard abt stories how you can get your toe stitches back to your hand as finger in USA In Malaysia, you definitely wont find such expertise. Thus, USA is a place with wonderful creativity and fearless sense for being different.

That is why they are top of the world because successful people are working for free and not for money.

In fact, this should be the right spirit. We should seek out to make a different, even though the money will not be a lot. It should be something that worth people's attention.. something that make changes to certain things. We should be going all the way out just to get it done rather than reserve all the way just to keep things the same.

such a bad day !

today was such (not really) a bad day.. to me it was a bit messy but yet interesting..

some of the things that happened..
1. My company product was down for the whole day. So i got the ezcuse not to be doing anything as my boss couldnt say a thing.. I am not responsible to bring them up.
2.bought birthday present for my father.
3. wanted to buy a pant(G2000) for myself but they ran out of size 32 inches. instead, i broke the zip of pant which I was wearing and couldn't fix it.
4. My first handphone went completely dumb.. it just couldn't speak a word. I think it is really time to change.
5. Met Patrick Lim (Omega Trend's presidential club member) at dinner near Tmn Seputeh. I was talking abt Omega Trend to other people at the other table. Thanks god I didn't say any bad thing abt him.

I also spent a lot of money through my credit card. But tis will be future problem.

things that I forgot to buy..
1. cat food.

Why r you standing there ?

I just curious sometimes... I have been living with my parents for 26 years and what are they really important to me..?? besides being the biological contributor to my existence, spending a fortune on me and scolding me for the last two decades..

Every morning.. my parents will be there.. I woke up and they will just be there.. I never really thought a lot abt their presence, Sometimes I would just walk pass them without saying much.

Came yesterday, I was at a public speaking ocassion (Omega Trend) where the speaker Mr. Arthur Yap was saying .."if you want to be as successful as me, you have to listen to me only. If you don't want to be that person, don't listen to anything he or she says".

this is really quite true, i never listen to my parents .. I don't like their ideas and opinions.. I don't want to be like them.. but then again, they also teach me the opposite, which is never be like them if I think they are not successful or worth copying. Their existence teaches me this every damn day, everyday I woke up to the morning, I got a reminded lesson, over and over again ..and again and again... I never realize it. Whatever things that they have done, wrongly or rightly scolded you.. if you think you don't want to repeat their mistake, and I have to thank them for being there always to remind me to "be better and make the difference"

same things goes to anything surrounding us.. people are giving somekind of dharma talk.. if you want to become a begger, follow their style. If you want to be a movie star, follow their style.. and you will be if not successful, at least one kind. Don't agree with your boss if you think he is wrong.. but you have no choice coz he is paying you, but at least you need to thank him for reminding you not to be him or her.

I would think, the biggest accomplishment of parents are (if they have children), succeeded in bring up the children and the biggest gift of children from parents is the opportunity to be a something better.

my dear friend, thanks for standing there..

wasting time ..

it is now 2:31 AM, I felt I have wasted the whole of yesterday...

why do I feel tat way ?
Because whatever I do is not helping me with anything..either making me richer or etc.. I achieved nothing yesterday.. except successfully sent my car for servicing..

earlier part of the day was sending car to workshop then go office, do some work, go lunch, do some work and then go pickup my car..
I spent 8:00 pm to 9:00pm having dinner with Rick Teoh and his girlfriend.. talking abt Omega Trend.
then 9:30 to 10:30pm trying to introduce someone to a job which didnt go quite well..
11:00 to 12:00 I spent on talking pictures of my cat which is sicked.
12:00 to now... surfing net for nothing... went into dirty site for a while. But I didnt look at the 'hidden camera' section where the owner doesn't quite allow you to see its secret. u know what I mean.. it makes a lot of difference when what you seeing is something you suppose to see or not suppose to see.

now i figure i justed wasted damn whole day.

it got me thinking.. wasting time is really a SIN!!!

blogging is not wasting time, blogging makes me realize that I was wasting time.

I really need to start not wasting time.. coz it made you go dumb and you just couldn't live productively. When wasting time, your mind stop there for a while .. this would kill your nerves and spoil your fate.. i think so.

Instant cafe schedule in KL - go see it :-)

Dear All,
It is just 2 weeks away….. book early.
Rgds
Brian (brian@lariche.net)
PS feedback on food collection please.

KL- GRAND PLAZA PARKROYAL

Performances in aid of PUSAKA - centre for the traditional performing arts

Join founder Directors Andrew Leci, Jit Murad, Jo Kukathas and Zahim Albakri and friends for this one time only gala event for the biggest line up of the tour!

27 October Grand Orchid Ballroom
(Charity Gala)

Table prices RM 10,000 / RM 5,000 / RM 3,000
Seat prices RM 1,000 / RM 500 / RM 300

28 October Grand Orchid Ballroom
(Charity Show) Grand Orchid Ballroom

Table prices RM 2,100 / RM 1,900 / RM 1,700
Seat prices RM 210 / RM 190 / RM 170

Time Dinner: 7.15pm - 8.30pm
Show; 8.45pm -10.45pm

Tickets The Instant Café Theatre Company
Tel: (03) 2148 5192 (Andre)
Fax: (03) 2148 5234
Email: instantcafe@po.jaring.my


With Andrew Leci, Allan Perera, Chacko Vadaketh,
David Gomes, Indi Nadarajah, Jit Murad, Jo Kukathas,
Junji Delfino, Maya Abdullah, Nell Ng, Paula Malai Ali,
Reshmonu, Shanthini Venugopal and **Zahim Albakri

(**Oct 27 only)

KL- ACTORS STUDIO

4-7 November The Actors Studio @ Bangsar Shopping Centre,Level 3, Bangsar Shopping Centre

Ticket Prices RM 102/ RM 82 4-6 November (8.30pm)

RM 82 ALL TICKETS 7 November (3.00pm)

Tickets The Actors Studio @ Bangsar Shopping Centre
Tel: (03) 2094 0400 / 1400


Different line up every two nights. Performers include

Adflin Shauki, Allan Perera, Ari Ratos, David Gomes, Edwin Sumun, Ghafir Akbar, Ida Nerina, Indi Nadarajah, Jo Kukathas, Junji Delfino, Maya Abdullah, Nell Ng, Patrick Teoh, Sandra Sodhy, Sean Ghazi, Soefira Jafaar, Shanthini Venugopal, Sukania Venugopal

Stress Management Workshop

"FREE STRESS MANAGEMENT WORKSHOPS FOR SELECTED ORGANIZATIONS"

Dr. Alvin Teoh is a professional trainer who charges premium rates for his seminars and workshops. Occassionally, he offers free 3-hour stress management workshops to selected organizations, such as NGOs, youth organizations, church organizations, nature societies, cupid clubs etc. The 3-hour session covers many areas related to personal & inter-personal stress in a work / family / social setting. Sessions are conducted in a hands-on, fun & totally outrageous approach.

Contact: 03-56346921

"Give a man a fish...feed him for a day, Teach him how to fish...feed him for a lifetime,
Train him how to rear fish...feed him for generations."
A quote by........... The Pro-Active Learning (PAL) Teammanaged by the Southern Cross Roads Management TrainersUnique soft-skill seminars since the milennium.
T:03-56346921

http://www.proactivelearning.cjb.net/

Brian Lariche - Charity Collection Drive

Dear All,

Well it is time for the last collection of the year before Christmas. Raya and Deepavali are just around the corner too. So please find it in yourself to be generous.

Before I go on I urge all of you to go for – LIFE SDN BHD part 2. What a brilliant show. Worth the 42 or 52 ringgit. Thursday night’s show was a charity show for KLASS an association dealing with HIV AIDS and though the rest of the show is not for charity, but they deserve to be seen for the great entertainment and insight on being Malaysian.

The Actors Studio, Level 3, Bangsar Shopping Centre October 7-9, 13-16 @ 8.30 p.m. October 10 @ 3 p.m.

Tel:
+603-2094 0400/1400

Anyway back to the food appeal; please let me know if you want to sponsor specific items for Raya or Deepavali. I can ask the homes and let you know. Also we have a new addition on our list that is the IKLHAS drop in centre. They need loads of support for the outstanding work they do. - They run a drop in centre for drug related clients.

As usual, please indicate when you are dropping by to deliver the items to my house.

Wednesday and Thursday evenings, I am in for sure from 6.30- 830 pm.If you have any other items to offer, please do so.

BUT I am away for most of November so PLEASE deliver all items by then.

I will also ask for a small collection for Christmas in late November.

1. Rice- 100 Kilos
2. Mee Hoon - 20 Kilos
3. Milo - Need 20 soft packs largest size.
4. Biscuits- Cream Crackers and assorted As much as possible
5. Condensed milk-100 tins
6. Evaporated Milk- 20 tins
7. Powdered Milk- for coffee usually so generic brands fine
8. Jam -8 bottles each collection
9. Peanut Butter- 8 bottles
10. Ribena- 8 bottles
11. Insect repellent.- 8 tins Baygon or ridsect.
12. Maggi Mee-300 packets
13. Planta magarine ( must be TINNED )6 tins -large
14. Cordial-orange and rose syrup- 10 bottles of each ( large 2 litre ones are best)
15. Instant Coffee- 20 soft packs
16. Local Coffee- 10 packets
17. Tea- bags and tea leaves
18. cooking Oil-10 bottles of 5 kgs
19. Brands Essence of Chicken or Pati Haruan- as many as possible.
20. Green Peas- 40 tins
21. Baked beans- 40 tins
22. sardines- 100 tins
23. Tuna- 100 tins
24. Horlicks- 10 soft packs
25. Any other canned food including corn beef

NON FOOD/Household

1.ANTISEPTIC- 10 more bottles
2.Floor Wash- 12 bottles of 2 litres
3.dishwashing soap. 8 bottles if large ones
4.Washing Soap for Clothes- 10 5kg bags
5.Shampoo- 30 Bottles large
6.Diapers- L size
7.Rubbish Bags- large and medium

drop off point

40 Lorong Maarof,
Bangsar Park
59000 KL
house number : 2284 5613
012 297 5613.
Thanks for helping improve the lives of people who have so little in a land of so much

Regards
Brian (brian@lariche.net)
Better one friend with a dish of food than a hundred with a sigh!!!!!!!

Connecting Business and Society
TLC
Brian Lariche
Assoc. Partner
brian@liaison-combination.com
31, jalan tunku,
Bukit Tunku
tel: +603 26924240
fax: +603 26914241
mobile: +6012 2975613
www.liaison-combination.com

Life Priorities Test

THIS GAME HAS A FUNNY / CREEPY OUTCOME.
DO NOT READ AHEAD, JUST DO IT.

IT TAKES ABOUT 3 MINUTES - WORTH A TRY

1. Get PEN and PAPER
2. WHEN CHOOSING NAMES, MAKE SURE THEY ARE REAL PEOPLE THAT YOU ACTUALLY KNOW
3. GO WITH YOUR FIRST INSTINCTS !!!!! Very important for good results.
4. SCROLL DOWN
   ONE LINE AT THE TIMEDON`T READ AHEAD otherwise YOU WILL RUIN THE FUN.
5. On a blank sheet of paper, WRITE NUMBERS 1 through 11 in a COLUMN on the LEFT.
6. BESIDE the NUMBERS 1 &2,
   WRITE DOWN ANY 2 NUMBERS YOU WANT.DO YOU HAVE A FAVORITE NUMBER?
7. BESIDE the NUMBERS 3 &7,
   WRITE DOWN THE NAMES OF TWO MEMBERS OF THE OPPOSITE SEX.
   CAUTION: DO NOT LOOK AHEAD or IT WILL NOT TURN OUT RIGHT
8. WRITE ANYONE'S NAME
   (like FRIENDS or FAMILY...)next to4, 5, &6.
   DON`T CHEAT OR YOU`LL BE UPSET THAT YOU DID
9. WRITE down FOUR SONG TITLES in 8, 9, 10, &11.
10. Finally,
    MAKE A WISH

http://www.geocities.com/brandonteohno1/blogPic/answer.html
Check out the answer here

My Answer here I just followed instinct and they went pretty well... but this game is pretty well engineered.

This game explains that my instinct is influenced by my feeling..

bloody petrol !!

whoi bloody .. car petrol price hiked again!! this is crazy .. RM 0.05 is a 3.5% {(0.05/1.42 ) * 100}increase to our daily expenses.. to put things into gross perspective, if you are a sales person with commission of less than 3.5%, for you to continue with current sales volume and customer-service requirement, you would be making losses altogether.. not unless you add a surcharge as service fees or you adjust the minimum order accordingly so that customers pay for this inflation effects. In the bottom line, if customers is not willing to do that, sales man would have to bear the cost because most company is not going to give a big damn abt this issue.

This would affect the middleman company first, especially those doing distribution where logistic is part of the accounting.. For instance, company dealing with handphone reload coupons are the one going to feel the burnt of the heat.. Principal company (manufacturer and etc) will feel it later when sales throughput from middleman decreases... eventually, professional service will be the last kena.

anyway, I am no economic expert, but I can tell you, I am going to drive lesser these days.. and I am sure gonna impose biggers rules on my business dealings.

http://thestar.com.my/news/story.asp?file=/2004/10/1/nation/9025779&sec=nation

海上生明月,天涯共此时 - Happy lantern Festival

aisay.. I never thought they would create web site even for Happy lantern festival... http://www.moon.com.cn/
in fact there are plenty of them. You can check them out to find out the history of this festival, which comes in many versions.

so this festival came again.. which I never really care abt it.. all I know is that I don't really enjoy eating mooncake during my childhood days.. where you would have things like black lotus, white lotus.. not so nice one.. these days you had things like vanila flavour, durian flavour.. ice-cream mooncake, latte mooncake, orchard splashcake...

and yeah, we heard of story people making money and sustain for one year by just selling mooncake. So, is eating mooncake really important becoz of the taste ?? I think not.

The only reason I eat mooncake is because today is the day and becoz my mom bought them. I guess the only reason my mom bought them is becoz today is the Lantern festival (of course she bought them few days before lar..) and also perhaps my relatives and friends gave some to us. So actually, this festival is good for many other things other than the history part of it.

One thing for sure it creates income for some and the second thing is I would agree, reunion. Also it creates side effect for some people like me with no girlfriend (YET!!!) coz I must be asking.. when is someone gonna sing '月亮代表我的心' to me... aisay.. so pity.. nvm I will play the MP3 (not cassette anymore!!)

Nevertheless, I think it would be great time if everyone just stop and look at the moon for a while. Think abt how much you have achieved in life and console yourself that you have actually done enough. What is more worth it than being able to look at the moon for a while .. would you still want to kira here and there .. that someone owed you money or something... Forgive them with all your heart, coz they are also looking at the moon at the same time.. hoping tat you would do the same thing.

Then suddenly maybe u might see an asteriod approaching .. (asteriod Toutatis is coming on wednesday.. no joke), but Bruce Willis is nowhere to be found!! No worries, this time is just passing by.. not visiting.

海上生明月,天涯共此时, 中秋节快乐! (Happy Lantern Festival)

INVITATION- YMCA OPEN DAY

Dear friends

We are pleased to inform you of the launch of the YMCA 100th. Anniversary Celebrations and the launching of our Book: SIGNS FOR CHILDREN during the Open day on 2 october 2004.

On behalf of the YMCA of Kuala Lumpur we cordially invite you, your friends, members of your organisation to attend the the Launch. The details are attached In addition we will be organsing a Kanagawa Children's art Competition in the afternoon. The details are attached. The promotional rate for children from this NGO's are RM 5.00 per child.

In conjunction with the celebration we are pleased to inform you of our IDD Workshops . Details are as follows:

International Deaf Day
3 October 2004 (Sunday)
10.00am-5.00pm ** REGISTRATION OF THE DISABLED****HEARING TEST**** EXHIBITIONS**
2.30pm-3.30pm Workshop: "Pelancaran Geran Untuk OKU to setup Business" by JKMWP
3.30pm-5.00pm Workshop: "Understanding Your Legal Rights as a Deaf Persons"
OPEN TO ALL!! and Hope to see you then!

Thanks & regards

Lucy Lim Excutive- Community Development Kuala Lumpur YMCA

Pls contact: "Tham Poh Weng" tham@hati.org.my

[hatifriends] A request for a bike for a handicapped person

Hi,

We are in need of funds to get a bike for the handicapped person.the total amount is RM 5,760 and a doctor is contributinmg RM 600.This leaves a balance of RM 5, 160.Should anyone require further information, please let me know.

I have contacted the Lions Club of Kulim and we can use their projectaccount to bank in the amount anyone wishes to donate.Lions Club of Kulim RHB Bank, Jalan Raya, Kulim A/c #20208736028567Please drop me a line should you need further information.Thank you.

Regards
Ashok Kumar
H/P: +6012-4237033
Email : ashok@ap.ansell.com

MGGR October 18-23

Greeting from the Center For Asia Pacific Women in Politics (CAPWIP) The Center for Asia Pacific Women in Politics (CAPWIP) would like to invite your organization to a training on "Making Governance Gender Responsive (MGGR)" October 17-23, 2004 in Manila, Philippines. This training course was developed by the Center for Asia Pacific Women in Politics (CAPWIP), with funding support from the Asia Pacific Gender Equality Network (UNDP-APGEN) and the PARAGON Regional Governance Programme for Asia (UNDP-PARAGON).

The course is designed for middle and senior level government executives, women and men in local governments, political parties, research and training institutes and civil society organizations who are leading or participating in governance reform initiatives in their respective countries. Specifically, it intends to help participants to:

1. Gain theoretical and practical understanding and appreciation of the Gender and Development (GAD) and governance concepts and their inter-relationship;
2. Acquire skills in identifying and analyzing gender-related issues and biases in governance; and
3. Formulate a doable action plan to address these gender biases and concerns. > It is composed of three (3) modules developed to enhance participants' understanding of the link between gender and governance as well as increase their awareness of gender biases in governance. The training is being offered and designed for a small group of about 25 to 30 participants only.

The first and second batches of the MGGR training were successfully held last February and June 2004 at the newly-built CAPWIP Institute for Gender-Responsive Governance and Leadership (CIGGL) located at Hostelling International Manila (HI Manila) at 4229 Tomas Claudio Street, Baclaran, Parañaque City, Philippines. This was attended by participants from different countries in the Asia Pacific region.

The third batch of the 2004 MGGR trainings is scheduled on October 18-23, 2004> The third batch was redesigned based on the feed back from the first two successful trainings. The third batch has been expanded to a six day course ( originally designed as a three day course), and the course is now heavier on field visits. The registration fee for the six day training is US775 based on twin sharing accomodations and US 600 for triple sharing accomodations ( meals and training kit included) We are sending you the detailed information sheet and the registration form as attachments to this email.

We hope that your organization can send participants to this training. Let us join hands in promoting gender responsive governance through transformative leadership and citizenship. We look forward to your participation.

Thank you.

Sincerely yours,

(Originally signed)> Sylvia M. Ordoñez> Executive Director> Center for Asia Pacific Women in Politics (CAPWIP)> www.capwip.org> www.onlinewomeninpolitics.org > > CAPWIP Institute for Gender-Responsive Governance & Leadership (CIGGL)Hostelling Internaltional Manila 4227-4229 Tomas Claudio Street Baclaran, Parañaque City, Metro Manila, Philippines((632) 8322112, (632)8516934 Tele Fax:(6322) 8322112 mobile phone 632 0918 940 3711E-mail: sylviaordonez@capwip.org (Sylvia Ordonez, Executive Director, CAPWIP)(Please always send a copy (CC) of all emails sent also to capwip@capwip.org and trainings@capwip.org to be sure that we will get it)

Uncle Lim & Genting

I always believe that Uncle Lim is not a good human being.. coz we would usually heard stories that someone gambled all monies at Genting and had to sell houses and etc.

My first visit into the casino was way back many years, which i believe only around 16 years old.. That was the time when my family visited Genting and I knocked into my high school friend; Mr. How Soon Khang. Mr. How used to be a close friend, until we split class during form 3, we were still close but not that close. Some say he looks like Tommy Page, fair skin and well-built body.

So during the genting encountered, we decided to have a hang-out at around 3 AM. So we did, walked around Genting Highlands Indoor theme park and it was pretty boring. We are not sure our way, then suddenly, we saw a television with some program running. We walked closer and closer, hope to glimpse what was happening there.. Suddenly, we were inside the casino, the guard didn't stop us I dont know why, probably was sleep-walking.

That was the first time I saw casino, it looks more like a wet market where everyone was standing and doing something. Those were great moments, where i would tell friend 'Hey, I got into Casino!!!', but now it is like 'ceh..' coz this story is outdated.

Anyway, my other visits to Genting Casino were after legalized age. I never like gambling, seeing people gamble on stack of tokens, assumely RM 10 K at one shot and lost it just like that!

Until recently, my perception on Uncle Lim changed. He could be a good guy..

One friend told me, many of those big gamblers go to Genting Casino with 'dirty money'. So it is good that these dirty money eventually got lost and recycle back to the community, where Uncle Lim gets to create many jobs(endless job) and make couple of donations.

So now I like the idea of 'dirty money' lost to Genting Casino, this is very justifiable, and it should be that way.

anyhow, I still don't like to go Genting Highlands.

Invitation -Micro Current Therapy (this Sat, 25th Sept 2004)

Hi,
If you're wondering what Micro-Current Therapy (MCT) or also commony referred as MENS (Microcurrent Electrical Neuromuscular Stimulation) is, it's very small pulsating currents of electricity (finely tuned to the level of normal electrical exchanges) which takes
place at body cellular level. It's simply one of the many progressive approaches to better health.

Studies have shown that MCT can among others:
- relieve pain if arthritis, tendonitis, injured joints, sprains and other spinal cord related injuries
- speed the healing of broken bones
- improve bone density hence treating or preventing osteoporosis
- heal wounds faster
- energize the body
- improve blood circulation
- alleviate the trauma of cancer chemotherapy and radiation

So... grab this opportunity and CHECK THINGS OUT yourself for FREE! Join us with Master Chin (one of the extremely prominent Qi Gong practitioners) and you're assured of surprises.
25th September, 2004 (this SATURDAY)
Session 1: 3pm- 6pmSession 2: 7pm- 10pm

Venue: Furama Hotel, KL (Bukit Bintang)

For reservations, please email/ call me by this Thursday (23rd Sept. '04), indicating the session preferred.
Limited seats for the FIRST 30 'early birds' ONLY. So, HURRY!!!!

See you there

Regards
Corrina Ho, 019- 3604437

Emotional Man

aiyo, i am such an emotional man... but i really am. what u wanna say i am sisy ?? come challenge me something lar (like tennis and etc..) anyway, my good friend Ian Kwok is always the better sports man.

but yeah, i weep when watching great movies ..like even Braveheart, Titanic and etc..

recently has been roller-coster for the emotional part of my life. Before I tell u some stories, let me give you some appetizer.

I became a buddhist - believer (something like Neo in Matrix... ) around more than two years ago, it happened after I was terribly illed, so ill that it changed my life forever. Modern medical never diagnosed anything, but every damn day I was in pain.. and I had to go to college to finish off my degree. Those were hell days, I assumed I was going to die. When you had such feeling, u started thinking seriously. Self-help buddhism help me through such hell time, where I eventually converted to vegetarian and make a vow to stay tat way for my whole life.

It is irony to believe such reality which my mother predicted long time ago(through fortune telling); according to her, I am destined to be a buddhist. I was a non-believer until then.

So buddhism taught me great things and I was rejuvenated - resurrected.

One of the lesson is 'nothing last forever, everything will have an end to it, we must let it be, let it be...'

So I did learnt this properly.. and started to evaluate people's perception towards love. I laughed at couple quarelling at each other, or guys or gals who committed suicided over love.

Not until recently, a friend of mine ( a lady in her fifties) suffered widowed. Her husband died unexpectedly and she was terribly saddened. Initially I couldn't understand it, coz sticking to the teaching implanted in me; that 'nothing last forever, everything will have an end to it', I assumed that she would 'let it be' as they been married for many years. One day, as I visited her, she said something which touched me profoundly.

"Losing your life partner is a completely different feeling from losing your parents and even your own children.." I know what she meant, she was saddened tremendously, I wouldn't expect this as she is always been a very spiritual person. I reserved my comments, even though I was expecting her to take things easy.

Not until recently, I finally experienced the same awkwardness.

I admired a girl I met at business seminar, she is very pretty and independent type. Chinese educated with some passion for public relation. As I was single and available then, I decided to give it a try. I work on some strategies and hope for the best. Day by day, my feeling for her grows .. me without realizing it, I was attached to it.

Until suddenly, my time was running out, she was leaving for oversea to pursue her career and I couldn't just catch up with that. I was like having one month left to confess or not...or Hell .. this is disaster man!

but the verdict is she left without me confessing ..

OK, hold your horses boy... I am not saying she likes me or that she doesn't have boyfriend.. (which i dont really know..., I dont even know her birthday) But I just couldn't understand that I am not 'let it be' too.. I kept telling myself "c'mon, she dont like u lar, she hates u, no hope lar.." But deep down, I am still holding to it.. (Sorry to those gay people, I am straight)

my message is that it is not that easy sometimes.. if I was a disciple during buddha's time, he would look at me and said 'oh brandon, practice hard ...practice hard...' I definitely failed the test and it made me understood the fact that loving someone is really not easy and u dont just say "forget it babe".

For my case, I dont know which best way to do, either to tell her and risks all or just to let it go and move on.. It is so hard to decide coz the feeling is so really attached. I just dont want to risk this attachment which is solely mine and no one else.

so, many of my peers had been married (recently) and will be marrying soon, I have high expectations on them. Deep down my heart, I wished the very best for them. If the whole world would experience what I am experiencing, there wouldn't be any quarrel between couples, because u should really appreciate it. So when u guys are quarreling with your spouses or partners.. just think of me.

what lar.. dont tell me u weep on this.. this is just a normal bachelor story lar..

or ya, another discovery.. when u love someone u wouldn't opt for pornography.. u would say 'argg.. come one...that is too disgusting..' keke.. dont laugh lar. So if you go for pornography it means u have empty feeling lar.. in case u are addicted to pornography, go get real love lar...

anyway ..

Time heals all wounds, buddhism lives on.

Straw Art - Anyone ?

Does anyone know where to find this thingy ??

National Cancer Awareness Activities - BSC

Dear all

The National Cancer Society of Malaysia (NCSM) is having a 6 day long awareness program on cancer at Bangsar Shopping Centre with a host of activities which include the highlights below.

~ Cancer clinics- advice by doctors on cancer related issues- daily at 1 pm and at 6.30
~ Dance show and workshops- daily dance shows and dance workshops including belly dancing and the ever popular salsa- at 3 pm and 8 pm daily.
~Art for sale and have your portrait drawn or make your own prints- great idea for the kids.
~Buy pottery specially made for NCSM’s yellow week.
~Excellent children’s books including NCSM’s CHEMOPHANT- a book on the effects of chemotherapy.
~Hand painted decorative items( from the 17th-Friday)
~Information on cancer and other surrounding issues.
~Speak to cancer survivors.
~Cancer survivors fashion show on Saturday the 18th at 4 PM – A MUST see.
~Singers in the evening at 7.45 pm on special days.

So come one and come all to BSC- Where it is all happening. 14th to this Sunday the 19th. Of September. AT BANGSAR SHOPPING CENTRE-BSC

Please pass this e-mail to as many people as you can

Thanks

Brian(brian@lariche.net)